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chrissylynntstv




chrissylynntstv

Joined: February 16, 2010
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PostPosted: Tue Sep 14, 2010 1:52 am    Post subject: why cant i find love or someone to love me for who i am Reply with quote

Sad just dont understand why trans people are supposed to be lonely and broken hearted dont we deserve love to and to be held when we are down and hurting so bad in our hearts why cant we have some hold us and tell use everything will be ok that and have some there for a shoulder to cry on when we need it

angel in waiting
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Posted: Sun Sep 19, 2010 12:49 am    Post subject:

`hey chrissylynntsty

no we are suppose to be loved also..but for us its a little different then born girls... cuz we have to weed out the guys that like the fact that we at ts.. and its not a sexual thing..and that this guy or girl (your pref) loves us for us..no matter what the outside looks like...i think i found that.. actually on this site.... but im not sure.. good thing he doesnt come on here anymore..haha.. but if u ever need someone to chat with email me... trust me ive been there...and i never gave anyone a chance...thinking they only wanted me for one thing..

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rhetoryk




rhetoryk

Joined: February 6, 2010
Posts: 9

PostPosted: Sun Aug 28, 2011 5:35 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

`You may not want me to respond, but I just gotta do it. For years I have sought out a relationship with someone who has been through the hurt and come out philosophical, contemplative and caring as I have. I have found that mtf thinks and feels a lot like I do. When you can get next to one. Read the last thing Cellie had to say, that says it all..."and I never gave anyone a chance"... Not all of us want a ts JUST for the sex. The mental/emotional companionship is stronger and longer lasting than the sex, anyway. But in short, give us a chance and you might be surprised by what you find. Best of luck to you in your search. If I lived up North we could talk about it. But I'm here if you want to e-mail. Just make a cup of coffee, sit down and tell me something.

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Posted: Fri Feb 17, 2012 5:25 pm    Post subject:

`Keep your head up and be yourself. Someday, someone will come along and appreciate you for being you. Dont settle for less than you deserve, just for the sake of having someone. The search for a decent man can sometimes be difficult, they do exist so hang in there.

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vermeth




vermeth

Joined: February 12, 2012
Posts: 20

PostPosted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 8:55 pm    Post subject: Re: why cant i find love or someone to love me for who i am Reply with quote

chrissylynntstv wrote:
Sad just dont understand why trans people are supposed to be lonely and broken hearted dont we deserve love to and to be held when we are down and hurting so bad in our hearts why cant we have some hold us and tell use everything will be ok that and have some there for a shoulder to cry on when we need it

angel in waiting


i'm sorry, but this is relative. i have seen many transwomen that have guys drooling over them (perhaps for the wrong reasons), and others that are as you say lonely. i'd like nothing better than to be in a relationship and have someone, i am bending backwards at this point, but that sh*t is going to stop soon (sorry for the venting). in short transpeople are 'not' supposed to be lonely. there are men who want an honest relationship with these men and women despite the gender identity issues. i'm sure you will find someone chrissy, but you can't expect him to come to you. you have to meet him halfway; he's out there.

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Posted: Mon Mar 05, 2012 3:30 pm    Post subject:

`amanda, you want to much, just look for a guy who wants to establish a good friendship... thats true love. What exactly is your definition of love? I mean romance that is fast and intense, like i get the feeling your talking about, usually is based of short term (infatuation) look for a guy who wants a friendship as well. And like all good things you have to fight for the good, there will always be, not so loving moments, but as long as the man that chooses you and yourself stick up for your relation and make decisions together then you'll come out on top.

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Posted: Mon Mar 05, 2012 3:32 pm    Post subject:

`A man who can fall in love with you as a friend will always be there, a man who is going to fall in love with you for your looks or materials will be gone with the wind.

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kitsuneshinta




kitsuneshinta

Joined: July 5, 2013
Posts: 17

PostPosted: Thu Jul 11, 2013 11:21 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

`No one is "meant" to feel that way. It may seem that way when things go bad but when they pick up again you will see that everything can turn out alright. You know what is difficult? Finding someone who cleans up after themselves, now THAT is difficult. Ha ha.

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darthreflon666




darthreflon666

Joined: July 5, 2014
Posts: 3

PostPosted: Sat Jul 05, 2014 8:17 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

`I'm in the same boat. I haven't started my transition yet due to being in the military so once I'm out it's on. But I'm mainly attracted to women not men and trying to find someone that's willing to be with me through everything is damn near impossible. I had come to the conclusion that I'd wait till after I started looking like a woman which might make it easier. Although I've also decided that once I'm out the military I'm gonna drive truck over the road and take a break in about 4-5 years for all my surgeries then go back to driving truck till I retire. I've tried to compromise on things in my relationships and that never seemed good enough so I've decided that I'm just gonna stay out on the open road and not even bother with relationships. I'm completely miserable being alone but I'm so tired of getting hurt at the same time. I've even tried to kill myself cuz I was so depressed. I've basically been alone for about 8 months now. I have no motivation to even try to find someone. Every woman I find that seems to be interested in me runs as soon as they find out about me or sends me immediately to the friend zone in which I stay.

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